From childhood to childhood :Being deprived to create a field.

I belonged to an orthodox muslim family.The rules of Islam was followed strictly there.we even as children must have to follow them too.But i had objections with some of the rules because i was very little then.such as,our guardians forbade us to play outside specially with the boys but i wanted to play with my friends either they are girls or boys.Also,being a girl,i have no freedom in making my choice.it disturbed me the most.

My father was a businessman.He used to be very busy.He had no time to take care about our study or another daily necessities. So,he gave these responsibilities to my uncle.He took care all the matters regarding our study or other things.But he was very strict and if we disobey him we have to face physical violence very often.like,if he saw us playing on the nearly field,if we could not finish the lesson he gave us he beat us severely.And most importantly,he took all the decisions on behalf of us from when we go to bed to when we get up from bed,what should we eat,wear and do.I even tried to accept all these things but later it started irritating me.

I clearly remember, in 2006,i was in class six then,my mother took me to the market for eid shopping. But i had to take the dress my uncle had chosen for me instead of taking the dress that i chose.During all my academic year before my marriage, i was forbidden to go to any study tour while i became sad to see my friends going there.In 2009,i was in class 9.In our country we have to choose our division like Science /arts/commerce from class nine.I wanted to study in Science but my uncle chose arts for me.so,i had to continue my studies in arts. I have no opportunities to socialize outside the school because he used to drive me to school and brought back home from school. I just want to portrait my scenario during those years throughout these incidents. Very often i became frustrated and sometimes complained to my father but it didn’t work effectively.

When i think about my childhood, i find many things missing there.According to me,playing is one of the basic needs of children. They learn so many things through playing like,group work, socialising,manners etc.Besides, it helps in child's mental and physical growth. The freedom of making choices helps the young children to become independent, improve the quality of problem solving and specially it leaves positive reaction to their mental growth as they want to take their own decision at this stage. So,when i was young,very often i wished that if i would be the mother of a girl i will make sure she could get all the facilities and opportunities that i couldn’t get.

My elder daughter was born in 2015. I have just finished my HSC exam then. I was too young to understand motherhood properly but i felt very happy to have a girl child. Till now, i am trying to give her all the facilities that she asked for and also good for her. I just want to ensure that she never feel the dissatisfaction that i felt in my childhood.

With the help of my husband who is extremely supportive we left a small place in our house and made a small playground for her. Not only my daughter but also many girls and boys around our neighbourhood come and play in that field.specially in the winter season the number of players increases highly due to the vacation. They have chances to play different kinds of games during winter.we make a badminton court and children of all ages play here. The girls who are interested in playing valued most here. We often organise badminton tournament or annual sports day where children from our locality are welcomed and they participate happily. In this occasion, we highly motivate the girls to take a place. You may surprise but i also play with them and sometimes i take part in the games pairing up with my husband.

My elder daughter have a deep interest in martial arts since she was five. If it was me my family never agreed to give me the permission to play martial arts as there was boys too. And they also things that it is not a suitable game for girls. But i have a completely different thought. I also want to see my girl playing this game internationally. As we live in a small city we had no opportunity to learn martial arts here in person. So,she often try to find programmes related to martial arts in television and in online platforms and learn from them. But it didn’t work that much.one day we find MR. Motahar the wushu(chinese marshal art) trainer. You can see him on this picture along with his students. My daughter is also there.

We frequently go for a tour around the city and sometimes go to the district Stadium in holidays.one day, we saw a man teaching wushu to his son. He was a national level player. I asked him if he could teach my daughter too. But he told that it might be very costly. Then i suggested him that he could start a wushu training centre. I also ensured him to help him with collecting students and also promoting this training centre. He finally agreed and created the wushu training centre "Motahar Wushu Academy" in December,2022 with only 5 students. Now the number of players has increased close to one hundred. The coach now thanks me to motivate him on opening this Academy and for the support i gave him at the beginning.

Now i feel happy and proud because i able to help a man on earning his livelihood and also succeeded to fulfil my daughter's wish of learning martial arts. Thus, i try to forget the things that i couldn’t have in my childhood. I want to give the massage to women all over the world throughout this story and this platform world pulse that physical violence towards children should be strictly forbidden and ensure love and freedom specially for our girl children.