Overcoming peer pressure

During my first year of study, I encountered various episodes of how students behave in universities. Because it was my first time and experience, The excitement was exceptional, such that if I almost ended up not knowing the reason why I was in university, My days would have probably been numbered, I met new friends, we shared a room and we started knowing each other.

As days, weeks, months went bye, my friend's true colors started unfolding, The only thing they talked about was going out with different men, attain a certain amount of money that could perhaps make them rich. If one of them finds a man that gives a lot of money the other friends would feel bad and that would make them search for more other men to just spoil them, and they couldn't care less if they got sick. The started introducing me to what they were doing and when I explained to them that I wasn't into what they were doing because I was still a Virgin, They would laugh at me and say I was so old fashioned and no man would perhaps want to date me simply because we're living in a world where everyone else is engaged in sexual kinda of life, and wouldn't find pleasure in dating someone who can never give them what they want.

My response always was it doesn't matter if no one chose me and because I know why am here, am never doing anything that doesn't feel right. They kept laughing at me and my old school behavior such that at one point I felt like they were right, I mean why would I be living in the old days when the world has changed? I have what it takes to put myself out, I can use what I have to get what I want, after all I needed food, clothes and money for my tuition fee to keep me moving forward. I ended up following them to where they go at some point, the place was noisy and very uncomfortable for me, they encouraged it's was going to be better when I get used, But something inside me couldn't accept whatever was happening, they introduced me to a certain man who said he needed a room for the two of us, But I refused, left the place and promised myself to never feel bad about myself no matter what they said about me.

I decided to change a room and hey I met two new friends who made me realize that you could be a whole good package at a wrong address.

One thing I observed from my other friends is that they were lacking a place of belonging, They all had low self-esteem such that when a man rejected them they would seriously feel bad about themselves yet they would go around and say mean things to someone they see isn't doing what they do. I felt like I really needed to help them in one way or the other, despite me trying to reach out to them they still would laugh at me and consider me old fashioned, I left them behind, maybe they were right but atleast I knew who I was and that I was strong enough to overcome any obstacle that comes my way and that strength keeps me going even upto today and I wouldn't want to judge anyone that I get to meet without knowing their full story or where they are coming from, or what caused them to behave in a certain way.

Others come from a back ground of abuse, rejection, it could be any kind of abuse which made them become who they're now and wouldn't let other people advice them, any form of advice feels like an attack to them and they would do and say anything to protect themselves from feeling hurt...