Before you commit

No matter how you choose to enter a relationship with a significant other, before commitment, focus on how they treat and talk about others. 

Initially, they would be respectful towards you. They would watch their language, control their behavior, and agree to your terms too. You would be impressed by them, and think of them as a good person..

But, you cannot know who they really are, unless you notice what kind of words and emotions they carry for those around them. 

Note how they talk about their family, or friends. Analyze the stories they tell you, the kind of people they hate, the names they give to others. Think about it when they tell you who criticizes them, and for what. Don't just look at things they show you, look through everything.

Tomorrow, they will treat you like they really are. Tomorrow, their character and personality will be your headache! 

If they hate their family, they will hate you. If they disrespect their colleagues and label them like a racist person, they will humiliate you too. If people hate them for being a nuisance, they will be a nuisance that you will have to deal with. If they tell you they lied in their applications and at their workplace, they would have already been lying to you as well without you knowing it!  

Walk out of the mirage that you don't need to worry about it all, because they don't do it to you! Don't take your vows thinking they would treat you as someone special your entire life! 

If someone’s just being nice to you, it doesn't make them a nice person. Use your head. Be sensible. Don't trust them. Trust the process!

Wake up!