Breaking the Silence - Amb. Maryben Omollo’s Call to Recognise Male Survivors of Abuse

Introduction

In conversations about domestic abuse, the focus often—and rightly—centers on women, who make up the majority of reported cases. However, Ambassador Maryben Omollo, a globally recognized mental health and leadership coach, reminds us that this focus should not come at the expense of acknowledging another painful truth: men can experience abuse too. With a global reach of over 50 million, 17 awards, and a foundation dedicated to building resilient and inclusive workplaces across Africa, Maryben is known for her inclusive approach to mental health advocacy. In her latest reflection, she challenges societal norms that silence male survivors and calls for a more compassionate, honest dialogue.

A Moment That Sparked a Conversation

A recent public incident (2025) involving French President Emmanuel Macron and his wife, Brigitte Macron, caught the attention of many. In a widely circulated video, Brigitte appeared to shove her husband’s face in the gangway, just before alighting form the aeroplane. President Macron later dismissed the moment as “just a joke.” But Maryben saw something deeper in that moment—something that resonated with many men who have been taught to laugh off discomfort, minimize pain, or stay silent in the face of emotional or physical harm. Her response was not about assigning blame, but about opening a conversation that is long overdue.

When “It’s Just a Joke” Isn’t Funny

Maryben emphasizes that if something makes you uncomfortable, hurts you, or crosses a boundary, it’s okay to say so. It’s okay to say, “That’s not funny.” Too often, men are conditioned to suppress their feelings, to “man up,” and to dismiss their own pain. But abuse—whether emotional, physical, or psychological—is never acceptable, regardless of the gender of the victim. She points out that subtle forms of abuse, such as humiliation, manipulation, or control, can be just as damaging as overt violence. And when these behaviors are brushed off as jokes, they become harder to name, harder to challenge, and harder to heal from.

The Silent Struggle of Male Survivors

Maryben’s message is clear: men who experience abuse are not weak, not overreacting, and certainly not alone. Many suffer in silence, fearing judgment, disbelief, or ridicule. The stigma surrounding male vulnerability often prevents them from seeking help, even when they desperately need it. She urges society to create safe spaces for men to speak up, to be heard, and to be supported without shame. Just as women deserve safety and dignity, so do men. Abuse does not discriminate, and neither should compassion.

Support Is Available—and Deserved

Maryben encourages male survivors to reach out for help. Whether through counseling, support groups, trusted friends, or professional services, healing begins with the courage to speak. She reminds them that asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of strength. Her foundation, the Maryben Foundation, is committed to supporting all survivors of abuse, regardless of gender. Through advocacy, education, and mental health support, the foundation works to dismantle stigma and promote healing for everyone affected by domestic violence.

Lessons to Learn

Maryben Omollo’s message offers several important lessons for individuals and communities:

1. Abuse can affect anyone: Gender does not determine vulnerability. Men can be victims too.

2. Silence is not strength: Suppressing pain only deepens it. Speaking up is the first step toward healing.

3. Boundaries matter: If something feels wrong, it’s okay to say so—even if others dismiss it.

4. Support should be inclusive: All survivors deserve access to help, understanding, and justice.

5. Changing the narrative starts with us: By acknowledging male survivors, we create a more compassionate and honest society.

Reflection

Ambassador Maryben Omollo’s call to recognize male survivors of abuse is a powerful reminder that healing begins with truth. Her willingness to speak openly about a topic often shrouded in silence challenges us all to rethink our assumptions and expand our empathy. In a world where men are often expected to be stoic, her message offers a lifeline: You are allowed to feel. You are allowed to hurt. And you are allowed to heal. Her advocacy is not about shifting focus away from women—it’s about widening the lens to include all who suffer. Because abuse, in any form and against any person, is never acceptable. And healing, for everyone, begins with being seen, heard, and supported.