Dear broken soul

Pause, breathe, and live. Sometimes take that break and set your mind free, don’t let it wander, enjoy the moment, there is so much worry with less to no peace. Self-care is a battle between emotions, mentality, reactions, self, and the community, but by the end of the day, it is more personal, yet the most ignored part of our daily lives. In everything we don’t do, some repercussions affect something in us, positively and negatively. You don’t have to lose yourself to tend to others, great soldiers are not those who necessarily die on the battlefield or fight on the frontline, but at times they are those who step back and restrategize to evaluate the next moves to lessen the damage.

Know when to stop. Every day, we encounter new troubles and people, and when you’re in a position to help, you can exceed your capability and start losing yourself. In life, not everyone cares how helping them is affecting you. They keep coming back for more, and it is up to you to set a limit. It is not exhaustion from helping; it is controlling what you out to prevent yourself from breaking. You owe yourself the break, recharge, and carry on when you can.

Vulnerability, being vulnerable, is the most unwanted experience, yet cannot be avoided completely due to the unpredictability of life. Dear one, no matter how vulnerable in life, never give people the room to rub it all over you or to look down upon you. Let them know that you are vulnerable, but you won’t let them throw shade at you; they should never lead to the lowering of your self-esteem or questioning of your self-worth. Be able to control the damage people can induce during your vulnerable state by defending yourself always. Stand up for yourself boldly in public and cry behind closed doors; it is not pretense, it is protecting your self-worth and respect. If you let disrespect go unaddressed, it gets out of control. Don’t be weak in challenging situations; if you must thrive, you have to be strong.

Trauma and triggers: master your triggers and avoid them. We have been made to believe that time heals everything, but I beg to differ. Time does not heal everything always, rather it is the distance from when you get hurt and the distance towards unraveling the impact of the hurt, meaning trauma doesn’t get behind us with time rather we choose to overlook it for a better tomorrow, not assuming it but not letting it get in the way of getting to the best version of ourselves. You have the power within you to reach for what you can when you want nothing should stop you from experiencing joy When trauma makes you feel like you at the always remember that when you reach the end of your rope, tie another one and keep going, the light is nearer with determination and desire for it.

Spare a part of you and be selfish with it. A part of you should be unreachable at all times; that part is what keeps you buoyant when everything is falling apart. People will take advantage of you at your slightest fall, but it will hold you up amid chaos, it will protect you at all times, especially from ruthless cowards who fight you when you're already on the ground.

Self-care is how you carry yourself confidently with your aura intact. It keeps you strong when you don’t feel okay to share, but remember, when the burden weighing you down can be shared, share it, it lifts some weight and makes you think straight and better. Every day our self-care is threatened by people around us especially those looking up to us for help, always remember, never exceed what you can handle, they will be okay, in the event you lose yourself in the process of proving a point life goes on for them and the sacrifice might be forgotten soon with your fading self, so take care of yourself first before taking care of others, at least you will be pouring from an overflowing cup.

Sometimes the symphony of our hearts breeds our characters which goes a long way in influencing our lives matter what happens, balance it, you can still smile in the dark, and win after repeated failures, just don’t give up on the rhythm, the beautiful vocals started in chaos, keep going my loves. After the chaos, there comes rebuilding and in the end, settling beautifully. Give yourself all the chances, just don’t stop growing. Treat yourself with the money you're saving up. The money will be made back, but the time can't be recovered. When you take care of yourself fully, you tend to be more productive.