How to Know You're Aligning with Your Higher Self

Today, I launched a weekly live class series called Bodyfulness Moments, which are short, half-hour sessions mid-week to get back into our bodies through somatic experiencing and breathwork. I created this offer because coming home to myself has been my life's work. I spent years searching outside of me for answers, and all along, the answer was within. Many of us are so out of sync with the intelligence of our bodies, and even I, as a yoga teacher for many years, didn't recognize that my nervous system still needed extra loving care. In fact, my nervous system needs continuous maintenance to stay aligned with my Higher Self.

And you know what? No one registered. No one showed up. Normally, the old me would have beaten herself up, felt angry, and swore to never invite anyone to another live class again. But this wasn't my first rodeo.

This time, I didn't react at all. I took my dog for a walk instead, prepared myself a yummy breakfast, and put on some music.

I used to feel rejection, because rejection was part of my learning. I had to feel the pain of rejection for most of my life to understand and know that my worth and my value are not reliant on anything outside of me.

And in this moment, I realized that I must be truly aligning with my Higher Self because my Higher Self knows that there's something much more beautiful waiting for me on the other side of fear, rejection, and self-doubt.

And your Higher Self is the same. She is the part of you that has been whispering you home. Guiding you, gently, and sometimes not so gently, to come home to your truth.

And while all of this might sound woo-woo, it really isn't, because life throws us a lot. We get caught up in other people's drama, other people's opinions, and other people's views of the world. And before we know it, we've strayed so far from our truth: our values, the parts of us that inside, always remain the same. This is our Higher Self. This is the Divine part of us.

So, How to Know You're Aligning?

Many people imagine that coming into alignment happens after an earth-shattering breakthrough moment. But in most cases, it doesn't.

It happens slowly, gently, subtly, over time. And usually, through many painful moments that we didn't know at the time, we're there for us to grow through. Even through the pain, you were growing, never shrinking. It was all a part of your growth and ascension. And now, you are in a moment where those parts of you can be laid to rest. They can heal now.

You're Coming Into Alignment When...

You Feel Peace, Even When Things are Messy: You've dropped the perfection facade and realize that not everything has to be perfect to feel okay. If you are triggered, you realize that it's just a moment in time and that you have full control over how you react, and let the feelings move through you.

You Tell the Truth Now: Not only to others, but to yourself. You finally speak what wants to be said, without holding back. You embrace the truth because you know that as long as it's hiding, it's playing tricks on you. When you call out the truth, it can't hide, and that makes you feel powerful and authentic.

You've Stopped Keeping Count: You are now fully trusting the timing of your life. You trust yourself, too, so you're no longer chasing likes, comments or subscribers. You don't hold on to those negative comments either, because they don't define who you are. You would rather chill than stress about when, where, why, or how.

You're Not Nice Anymore... But You Give Fully: You stopped being Miss 'Nicegirl' to please other people or avoid conflict, and now, you give because you want to, because it makes you feel good, and because you don't need anything in return. You say no when you want to say no, and yes to the things that light you up. People can feel your generosity and genuine nature because you hold yourself to a standard of respect that they crave, and it's contagious.

You're Less Stressed: You no longer sweat the small stuff, and the anxiety and panic attacks are finally dwindling. You have more energy, feel more productive, and have more time for yourself lately. You rest when you need rest, and you don't feel bad about it either.

You're No Longer Forcing: You are done with the hustle, done with the pushing, and you've finally dropped the belief that hard work = your level of worth. You prefer flowing with life, rather than forcing it.

You Trigger People: I had to add this one, and I saved it for last, because you've got to save the best for last! The truth is, the more aligned you are with your truth, the more you'll set people off. This is because the more you live in your truth, the more you light up. And since they are NOT living in their truth, your light shines on the parts of them that need healing, too. And because of all the reasons above, this doesn't make you feel guilty or reactive because YOU KNOW that you are healing them by simply being in their presence... but, it's not your responsibility to fix anyone or hurry their healing journey.

Most women begin to feel this shift in their 40s, and that's where I am right now. I can confidently say that I love my 40s. I feel more vibrant than I did in my 20s. Wiser, more relaxed, and more grateful.

When you can begin to appreciate the small things, and when you notice you react less to things that used to bother you, you are well on your way to meeting your Higher Self.

So... are you aligning with your Higher Self, based on these points above?