I GREW UP IN A BROKEN FAMILY HOW CAN I LEARN TO LOVE???

Talking to a young man who has since lost hope of finding true love, he said that he blames himself for breaking the hearts of many girls but he just doesn't know how he can be fixed.

"I watched my mother being abused by my father. The scenario that never leaves my mind, is when she was hit with an iron bar and succumbed a fracture. I had to spend 9 years nursing my mother, whilst my father decided to leave us and enjoy his escapades with other women. I hated that man with everything that is inside me."

As he was narrating I could feel the chills of his bitterness, as he expressed himself you could feel that if he was given a chance to meet his father, the worst might happen.

He went on to explain why it is difficult for him to love,

" I just don't believe in love anymore. I have met wonderful people who were willing to hold my hand but instead of me learning from my father's mistakes, I feel like I was emotionally abusing them. A little understanding would turn to a big issue, I guess it's true when they say broken people break others, or when they say you cannot give love if you yourself have never been loved.".

After having such a deep conversation to this young man I realized the impact abuse and a broken family can have on the children and those that they are likely to interact with. This can even affect many generations because the string will go on if the person doesn't realize that they have a problem that need to be dealt with.

It does not make sense for you to expose your children to such traumatic experiences. Dear fellow woman,if you are being abused, I encourage you to walk away and go to a place where you are appreciated. Take your children with you and expose them to a peaceful and loving environment.

It is not about the finances. Where there is a will there is a way, better have little and enjoy peace and happiness than be in abundance yet destroying yourself and the future of your children. Be wise and make decisions that will make your existence worthwhile.