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I need help 💔🙏🏻



2022-06-22

Hi, I'm new to this platform, I just joined it because I'm desperate, I need help, I need to be heard... I'm Italian so forgive me already for any grammar mistake. I don't even know from where to start... I'm 21 yo, I live in Italy and I'm lesbian, I suffer from depression and self-harm, but I'm not asking help for this. I'm in a long distance relationship with an Egyptian girl, N., she's 21 yo and lesbian too and it's more than 2 years we are together. I consider myself "lucky" for living in a country that is slowly opening its mind about LGBT people's rights, my family is traditional and Catholic but they accepted me anyway so I can't complain about this... But my gf isn't as lucky as I am. Egypt is still closed minded about LGBT rights. She is from a very wealthy family unlike me, and her father is an high ranked officer of the army who has a lot of power. He discovered that she is lesbian already time ago but he doesn't accept it and some months ago he was forcing her to get married with a rich guy, son of an Egyptian politician, in a marriage of economic interests. My gf refused that with all her forces and only when she threatened her father to kill herself he stopped harassing her. But he didn't give up completely. Some time later my gf got diagnosed with leukemia and she struggled the hardest months of her life because of it. Luckily, thanks to her family's money she managed to pay for the best cures the world can give nowadays to fight that cancer and she managed to survive and heal partially. During her sickness her father never came visiting her. After she could leave the hospital and start living her normal life again her father blocked all her banks account and took all her money and he made a sort of block that prevents her from leaving Egypt without his permission. I don't understand how this thing works, but she told me it's impossible for her to leave Egypt now, even because she doesn't even have money. It's not finished. Her father doesn't let her go out without his permissions, in the past he even physically hit her and hurt her and he even locked her in a room for days without food and water. Everytime she tries to rebel to him she gets threated, verbally or physically hurt or even humiliated. My gf told me that her father's hatred towards her comes from the fact that he wanted a son and not a daughter. The son he wanted came only after her and her older sister, but the hatred remained in him anyway. Her grandma, the mother of her father, asked her when she'll get married and have kids just some days ago. They are probably waiting for a male nephew. My gf is just so young, but they want to turn her into a kid making machine and move her from under the control of her father to under the control of an husband. As long as she won't be married she won't be allowed to work, travel and just have fun. She doesn't have freedom, she's a prisoner. I asked her to call the police or to contact any human rights association in Egypt to help her, but she told me that the police there can't do anything against an officer of the army like her father, and everyone knows what happens to human rights activists in Egypt. She's trapped... And I feel powerless, useless and alone because I'm not able to help her in any way... I can't even go visit her because her father would literally kill me... I'm really desperate... I need help, she needs help... Please help me find a way to save her... I would do anything for her... This world is so unjust 💔

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