IF YOU ARE A DARK WOMAN, THIS IS FOR YOU

TO THE DARK WOMAN READING THIS --

Yes, I wrote this with you in mind.

Yesterday, I was scrolling through TikTok when I came across a video I really like.

I dropped a comment and was about to leave, when I saw something that stopped me.

"I lost my confidence in my skin colour, but after hearing all these things, I'm proud of myself now."

That statement hit me differently, because I've been there.

Some years back, I was too conscious of my skin.

And it even got worse when someone likened me to charcoal.

Seriously, I hated anything that had to do with taking pictures.

I was always the darkest among them.😔

Do you know that feeling?

Even In church, I'd use my Bible to shield my face from the camera.

And even before the society told me to be ashamed of my skin, I was already ashamed of it.

Not because anyone said it directly, but because I was surrounded by people who were lighter.

In my classroom, in church, even at home.

So I naturally compared myself to them -- long before the world told me to.

I remember asking God several times, "Why did you give me this type of skin?"

Then one day, a new girl came to class.

And the first thing that attracted me to her was that she wasn't trying to be like anyone else.

In fact, she was not trying to please anybody.

And I admired her for that, because sincerely, most newcomers try to fit in.

They start trying to please everyone.

But this lady...she was just different.

She was dark, bold, and beautiful.

And she carried her black skin with so much confidence.

I thought I had seen it all, until one day when a classmate asked her, "What's the name of your cream?"

(Obviously, it was to humiliate her.🤷)

But instead of shying away, she smiled and said,

"Ori (Shea butter)"

I was totally shocked that day.

She said it with a confidence that screamed, "Yes, I use Ori, and I'm proud of it. I'm also proud of my skin colour."

That moment changed something in me.

I realized this was God trying to answer the question I had been asking Him.

Wait...

Who even made the rule that confidence means being the lightest in the room?

Sade didn't need bleaching cream.

She had something better: self-acceptance.

And since that day, I began to see that my skin was not a mistake.

Tell me, why would you call God's masterpiece a mistake?

Something He designed on purpose.

I mean, what do you mean you are ashamed of your skin.

Ashamed, as how?

Do you even know that when God wanted to create you, He didn't delegate that work to another?

He intentionally sat down and crafted you in His own image.📌

So, to every dark woman reading this, this is your reminder to:

Show up confidently.

Start walking boldly.

Take that picture.

Because now you know, you are not a mistake. You are God's masterpiece.💛

Tell me, have you ever felt less confident because of your skin?

I'd love to hear from you.