I’m done with understanding men and sick of listening to their problems

There are plenty of thing I will never understand about cis men, and any “struggles/things” apparently only men have make absolute no sense to me because many of them have nothing to do with gender. It frustrates the hell out of me that someone tries to explain it, and I’m like “stop”, as it undermines the struggles of women and non-binaries:

“why is he jumping and smacking doorways all the time? test of newfound strength. i'm stronger, can jump higher, and when i'm feeling myself i jump up and smack doorways 'cause i can.”

You’re stronger because you’re trained, not because of your testosterone. This is the same for us women. Practicing your physical activity has nothing to do with gender.

“why is he so goddamn clumsy? misunderstanding newfound strength. i restarted T in july. about a week in i knocked over a can of coke while i was playing video games. a week ago that would have been a gentle reach for my drink. then suddenly it's like my arm just shoots out. i was like a cat on a counter for awhile.”

Sudden jolts in your body are not caused by testosterone. They are simply called muscle spasms and are common, regardless if you’re a man or a woman. I get muscle spasms a lot when I’m nervous.

“why in the bathroom all the time? does he have bladder issues? the bathroom's a great place to hide from bullshit. he's also masturbating probably, but i live in a house with 7 other guys and sometimes you need to get away from mr. karen's nonsense for just 5 blessed minutes. the smartphone is the modern version of the guy on the john with a newspaper.”

Do you even realize that women need peace and quiet just as much as men do? This is not gendered at all. In the case of us women, we hide in the bathroom to avoid predatory men.

“why the oversized pants? your dick is not that big, bro. neither is mine, but it hurt like hell to wear regular-fitting pants for a while, and a packer was out of the question entirely.”

If your body is reacting with pain as a result of tight clothing, this is not because of your gender. Otherwise, if you’re complaining the pants made for men are “uncomfortable”, then why is the space of the zipper broader compared to women’s sized pants? This not only ignores the struggles of women who are uncomfortable wearing bras and skinny jeans due to us storing more fat, but it also undermines the struggles of trans women who had to wear tight pants that makes their genitals hurt.

“why the quiet monotone voice? 'cause, to paraphrase a quote from the nutty professor, his voice has more crack than harlem. i sound most masculine when i talk quietly and with little bounce. that also doesn't sound like me, so i'm recalibrating my voice to see how high i can get it when i'm emphasizing an emotion without cracking.”

Tsk tsk. So much ignorance going on here. Voice cracking is not gendered and is caused by hitting puberty, not testosterone. Voice cracking in puberty is very common, including in women. Also women are policed on the tone of our voice as well. We’re policed for sounding too loud and emotional all while being told we’re not talking “feminine enough”. Or if we talk in a monotone voice, we’re “lifeless” and “cold”. Women can’t win.

”“Bro it’s freezing cold, why are you wearing shorts and a t-shirt outside?”

Me now with a lower heat tolerance “I get it now..””

Tell that to all the plus sized women in the room. Lower heat tolerance is caused by fat, not testosterone.

“Why is he taking up so much space? My balls are sticking together and this position is so comfortable.”

This is why manspreading is such an annoying habit to break, because you have such little regard to the spaces of other people who want a seat as well. A pregnant woman would be justifiably pissed at a man who claims squeezing his balls makes him uncomfortable. Like dude, no one is forcing you to squeeze your balls together, you can sit to your comfort all while considering the spaces of others around you. It’s not that hard!

“Why is he so loud? He’s really excited to talk about something and he doesn’t realize how loud he actually is.”

But when a woman gets loud, she’s called emotional and hysterical. Also, women tend to have stronger hearing than men, add having autism and you’re in for a nightmare, do you have such little consideration for women?

“Why does boys eat so much? He hungry.”

No, boys eat a lot because they aren’t policed on what they eat and how much they eat compared to girls. Boys tell girls that we’re not allowed to satisfy our hunger the way they can, and it pisses us off.

“Why do boys randomly wrestle each other? It’s like making out but in a manly way.”

Jesus fucking christ, what a shitty excuse to justify violence. Also wrestling has absolutely nothing to do with manliness OR making out! Quit being so fucking stupid!

“BONUS: I never pulled the trigger but for the first time I understood the impulse. Sending dick pictures. The idea is “My dick looks good. If I sen it to her she’ll like it too””

PEDO ALERT!!! PEDO ALART!!! This man is a textbook creep! I cannot tell you how many things WRONG with what you said, you fucking creep!

Oh god, this is why I am sick and tired of listening to men about their problems. They only want to make it about themselves.