“Misandry”? Jesus fucking Christ, are you this deluded??

I stumbled upon a post on Reddit, and I’m super pissed about it. It’s about a person who is non-binary complaining about “misandry” and “men are trash” bullshit. Like, you say you’re non-binary, yet you feel so insecure about having the patriarchy being damaged in some way, all while ignoring the constant misogyny women hear their whole lives:

”I hate being called a “man”

Especially when it’s in an othering way, but pretty much regardless of the connotation. I feel like one of the major reasons I identify as nonbinary is bc I don’t identify with the characteristics usually associated with men. Especially the negative ones. I usually feel like way more of an outsider when I hang w men than I do when I hang w women. It just feels wrong and not me. Even if it doesn’t even have a negative connotation in whatever context it is.

I also don’t feel like a woman. I feel much more in-between than anything. I’m just a person

Idrc abt being called a boy or a dude as much but being called a “man” specifically feels like it’s much more negatively loaded (connotatively) and much more gendered”

Do they not understand that being referred to as a man is far more gender neutral and more positively received compared to being referred to as a woman? Wait ‘till they find out about the negative gendered language centering women.

”Can I just offer you some empathy? I don't have solutions. I'm AFAB but I find the way we talk about men to be super fucking alienating. The majority of my friends ID as either cis women or MTF trans women and I find myself feeling like I'm the only person in my group who doesn't think "men are trash" and who feels like, idk, they're putting down something integral to my humanity when they say that. Idk. It feels shitty. It also makes me feel like I don't want to explore that part of my gender identity, which has turned it into a kind of Jungian 'shadow' part of my psyche, where it's bleeding out into other things because I'm not dealing with it. It's super frustrating. The way we talk about men is just unacceptable, but idk what to do about it. I just know I don't want to internalize the hatred of maleness because there's something about it that I have to claim.”

Dear god, this has to be some kind of “I’m not like the other girls” ragebait! Does she ever acknowledge the fact that women face misogyny their whole lives, like is she even AWARE of that, considering the fact that she claimed she’s a woman herself?

”Absolutely this, it's so sad how much worse misandry has gotten in the last like 6 years. Like I'm a trans woman and I understand the danger men can pose and I've even suffered violence from them. I get needing to be careful but to just say "men are trash" and then get upset when someone says "not all men" just isn't really fair. Imagine stereotyping black people because statistically they commit more crime (for socioeconomic reasons) it's obviously bad to do that.

Like I get that toxic masculinity is a thing but instead of shaming men and talking exclusively about toxic masculinity, why can't we instead just give more and more attention to positive examples of masculinity? Even if someone has trauma around men they have a responsibility to try to work through that trauma to a point where it doesn't effect people who had nothing to do with that trauma. All the young men and literally under 18 year old boys who commit mass shootings are emblematic of a society that is failing young boys leaving them feeling lost and alone.”

Sure, toxic masculinity is ALWAYS the woman’s fault. Oh boo-hoo, young boys are “lost” and “alone”, they’re such victims, aren’t they? Forget all the horrible things the patriarchy set out for them, it’s all Wahmen’s fault! Those stupid manhating feminists ruined those poor innocent lives!

Dude, there are SHIT TONS of examples where positive masculinity is shown, unless you’re too fucking lazy to look them up. And also, women get all kinds of hate regardless of what we say, and when we call out this kind of behavior, we get told “women are so sensitive these days, can’t take a joke”. And yet here you are, getting offended over something that speaks ill of sexist men!

Of course we’re fucking aware that this isn’t targeting every single man on the planet, but you comparing this with RACISM of all things is absolutely ridiculous and utter bullshit! This isn’t even the same fucking thing!

Seriously, I’m done with this shit.