“People don’t have good manners anymore”, OK Karen

I know I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again: I fucking hate etiquette policing! I hate it with all my heart and soul! I hate it more than slut-shaming, more than racial micro aggressions, and yes, even more than death threats! At least those are being called out, so why the fuck is no one else calling out etiquette policing?!

Let me be clear, manners and kindness are not the same thing. Kindness is doing onto others based on how you want to be treated, while manners and etiquette are nothing but excuses to promote racism, sexism, classism, etc.

And what do you know? It’s Quora, a cesspool of far-right assholes and hypocrites who don’t practice what they preach. Holy shit, I’ve got quite a bit to uncover. Strap in, ladies, this is gonna be a bumpy ride:

”Our culture has become morally lax and culturally casual; many of the social norms have deteriorated to being almost unrecognizable.

A little over half a century ago, professional men still wore dress shirts, suits and ties, and women usually wore dresses.”

Because if we don’t wear what society expects our gender to look, we’re sissies and sluts.

”Restaurants were quiet, most people were civil to one another.”

Civil, my ass! Try walking out on the street as a black person during the Jim Crow era and white people keep throwing out the n word at you, even though you’re just minding your own business! But please do tell me more on how you were “civil”.

”Television programs were often wholesome: family programs without profanity and sexual innuendo. Children were taught good manners and politeness.”

Wholesome, my ass! Many of the classic television programs from your day were filled with racist, misogynistic, and anti-gay ideology. I’d much rather watch a profanity/sexual innuendo filled program than whatever the hell you watch when you were a kid, grandpa!

Also, “good” manners don’t mean shit anymore, that still won’t give you the same everyday access you wish to have because of your race, sex, income, sexuality, etc.!

”Then everything changed. First the beatniks, then the hippies of the counterculture, then Vietnam, the drug culture, gangs, racial problems, turf wars and divisive politics. As youngsters grew up and had children of their own, not only did they retain their radical ideas but infused them into their children. Now their children and grandchildren have adopted the “anything goes” philosophy, devoid of the cultural niceties of earlier generations.”

Because straight white cis middle aged men refuse to acknowledge that the so-called lack of manners is their own fault. It’s as if the very moment women, people of color, the LGBTQ+ community, working class people, etc. are seen as capable as the privileged, they have the gall to complain about bad manners.

Just say you’re a bigot and move on.

”So, these people become the masses, and those who reflect the good manners and politeness of earlier times, regardless of their economic or social position, are the minorities, the snobs, those that don’t “fit in”.

Keep up the good manners. “sticks and stones”, you know.”

Ooh poor you, I don’t know how you stand it! You’re such a helpless victim over the evils of the BLM and trans communities! Woe is you!

Lol, it’s like the hardcore evangelicals claiming they’re the ones being oppressed thanks to all the “evil” atheists taking over America! Y’all want to be the victim SO BAD, don’t you? It’s funny how you can get away with being racist and transphobic all while claiming you have good manners, yet when we get sick of your bigotry and fight back, you get mad and scream about how we have “no respect”, lmao! Fucking hypocrites!

”Because people assume (there’s that word I hate again) that you have to be well educated and have money in order to have good manners, when the exact opposite is true. Anyone who cares about how they are perceived can have very good manners. It does not take much studying, just the encouragement to read about what good manners are.”

Kindness is not the same thing as manners, dumbass. Manners is purely nothing but control and “do what the rule book says or else”, and I refuse to buy that shit.

”I think she’s still around, but there was a columnist who called herself Miss Manners. I met her at a DC Antique show years ago, and she was as mannerly in public as she was in her column. She had a lot of things to teach, and a lot of people read her column, and took it to heart. I loved it because she answered all those dumb questions we all have, like what do we do when the couple you’re with at dinner gets into an argument.”

Lady, anyone can call themselves Miss Manners, even the guys! And I can guarantee that so-called Miss Manners you met is the fakest person to ever exist! I mean, she’s so fake, even a toddler can see right through her. I don’t understand why some people have to be so insufferably perfect to the point where they think it’s normal. Do you not see how annoying it gets to us who try to have “good manners” but feel so uncomfortable trying to please others?

”Cause manners are not taught anymore sadly. Try to avoid but can call people out if there being rude to others at times it not my fight. Really try to avoid it but if there walking all over someone going to call them out it’s not ok why there call manners.”

First of all, learn some decent grammar ‘cause I cannot understand half of what you’re saying! Second, manners promote systemic oppression, that’s why it’s not “taught anymore”. And third, why are you whining about bad manners when you simply said earlier to avoid people who act “rude”? Sounds like you’re the rude person yourself and are upset that we’re avoiding you.

”Some people never got out of that ‘toddler’ stage where everything and everyone is for ‘Me! Me! Me!’. The world must bow down to ‘Me!’ Good manners and caring about Other people’s comfort, etc. is just Too much of a burden for these slobs. Civilized behavior in word and deed is just another ‘trap’ seen by this type of person. The word ‘elite’ used to carry a positive connotation before it became a dirty word used by these cave dwelling cretins.”

Sounds like you’re not above name-calling yourself either. God, your words are filled with so much irony! You have the audacity to bitch and moan about being called an elite and a snob, yet here you are calling us “slobs” and “cave dwelling cretins”! It’s also ironic how you claim how manners are about “caring about others’ comfort” and yet you don’t give a shit what we have to go through! You also contradict yourself saying we’re always going “ME ME ME! You must bow down to ME!” meanwhile you’re doing the exact same shit yourself!

I wouldn’t be surprised if you were that obnoxious entitled bitch who screams about civilization and policing others for mundane things! Hell yeah I see you as a trap, and for what you call us, we have every right to call you an elite because that’s exactly what you are, Karen!

Now let’s focus on some other articles, and it has the same boomer mentality of “boo-hoo, good manners are declining, why is nobody catering to me?”. I won’t be going into every detail, so if you want to see what I’m talking about, I recommend you check the links below:

https://medium.com/anujemis/bad-manners-62e0a04b339c

“Bad manners is when you are rude, obnoxious, inconsiderate, disrespectful, mean, horrible and nasty. Ill mannered people can also be rather threatening”

Why do they still call it manners?! Just say they’re being an asshole and get it over with!

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/decline-good-manners-susanne-skinner

“We have a growing disregard for basic manners, common sense and courtesy and thoughtfulness. These are small offenses, a failure to use “please” and “thank you”…”

For fuck’s sake, stop calling it manners! I have a life to live, I’ve wasted years trying to please shitty people by being polite! And since they’re not going to be respectful to me, then why the fuck should I?! I don’t need to fucking say please and thank you anymore if I don’t have to, you’re getting offended over something so MINOR, it’s like crying over spilled milk!

I’m done being polite ‘cause y’all fucking boomers make me sick, having no respect for our individuality, then whining about how we have bad manners! Fuck off with that shit! If y’all wanna portray as the horrible Wokesters you claim us to be, then so be it! We’re not your scapegoats, and we’re not gonna take it anymore!