SEX Boycott for Kenyan women might lead to thrashing from their husbands.

"We will thrash them if they try, they have to know who married who, their work is to serve their husbands and their husbands to serve God, let them try, they will see."

These were the words of an man in the Kenya street after an appeal by a Womens activist NGO for Women all over Kenya to Boycott sex for a month to protest over the bad leadership the country has experienced (Almost 80% of Kenyan leadership comprises of men).

As funny as this sounds, it an indication of how much more women in Kenya have to work for their rights ...rights to their body, equal rights to make decision on leadership and the right to lead. If a man can say on national tv that he will thrash his wife if she boycotts sex to champion for good governance then maybe there is something really wrong with our community.

In most communities globally women have been relagated to sex objects and working machines. Is there a difference between the man who beats up his wife because she cant have sex with him because of a reason she believes is valid, or a course she believe in like say abstaining from all pleasures for the sake of the country with the rapist who attacks a waom while walking home? Please tell me the difference!

When the Afghan president okayed a bill allowing rape in marriage, some journalists and human rights activist termed him and his government as worse than taliban. This act dehumanises the victim, the worst form of abuse a woman can go through!

Women should be free to make their own decisions and show leadership.If i dont wanna have sex for whatever reason, my husband should understand that and be able to live with it. Because thats what love and companionship that make up a marriage are all about.

In my blog I speak often about the forms of abuse to women , because I believe that there are many women out there whose rights are violated everyday and have no one to speak for them. Women in warzones, women vulnerable to rape on our streets, women who instead of comfort in their homes live in fear and anxiety wondering what the husband will do to her when she gets back,women who are beaten to a pulp in different brothels but have no where to run because they dont even know where they are.