*THE MARRIAGE BIGGEST MISTAKE*

*THE MARRIAGE BIGGEST MISTAKE!* 🎎🌻💘

Based on Gender Harmony (GH) factual findings; the biggest mistake of couple in dispute - they put highly up n important the feelings! Wrong!‼️

Put Situation on top (!!) - then as adults you cd see better n have built “mutual understanding” to get the “mutual solution”!🌻

Indeed patriarchy culture made matters - that’s why men are mostly attacked by the legitimation crises!

Male is the head ~ thus when it felt smthing likely not being legitimated; the pressures came n by its time cd be manivestated in anger, yelling even violence!

Thus we must taken care 3P in harmonious living: privilege, prestige n profits. It wd prevent the legitimation crises!

Let’s Go read the GH book series! 🙏🌹🌻🌈🌟💫💞

Baby-sitting is needed for babies due to they hv lack of understanding, capability and stamina.

I wrote on: Baby-sitting. vs. Reality & Romance. The beginning of marriage needs baby-sitting due to they likely babies dont know much about understanding others mostly when living n sleeping together daily, capability to be in partnership and enough ‘stamina’ as adult to get adaptation as spouses.

That’s why truly dangerous if the third party is around although the parents or in-laws!

~ that’s why needs courtship time /engagement! 

A ship always need someone at each edge of ship! Partnership ~ involved capabilities and getting used to be on a ship!

Different wt “motherhood” ~not ‘mothership of mother n child’?! Becoz a mother got agape’ love directly from God!

A mother is willing to sacrifice in order to make the child alive or happy..!

We are not being asked to sacrifice for spouse in marriage ; however ‘true love’ is to giving! If you never have the will to give … ~ that’s not LOVE! 🫣

If you give only for barter or transaction of getting what you want that’s “Eros”! A wild desire for self satisfaction -this is NOT Love!

Thus be practiced to love one of another during courtship or early marriage time

God be with you🙏🌹

1john4:19 ~ “We love because He first loved us.”

You cd do it!

Grasp your peace, harmony n happiness! 💗

The picture: Serikaya Fruit! [from my garden]

you never known how it taste before open and try it!

thus, remember put “situation” as objective and not the feeling as ‘subjective’!