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The scar on my belly



Each time I stand in front of the mirror to look at myself. I imagine how transformed I look after God's creation. The beautiful belly I had has gone and left me with a scar with divided lower abdomen that looks like two lobes because of the surgical needle and thread that has pass through there. Only one man still see it beauty-my husband. He says, you stomach is taking shape everyday. Look more beautiful. It maybe true but I see it as a tease.



Many many women have scar as a result of surgery. But the most common is ceaseran section. I have already counted about five people who were carried out of the theater room before I slept off that night in the hospital. By morning, every bed in the maternity ward of the hospital was occupied with 70% of women who delivered through cs. I imagined how many will also be carried out in various hospitals nationally and globally.



Child bearing is sweet but I know that today women do not find joy again when they are pregnancy becos of fear of CS. But it is "safety first" and an option to save women at birth. 'Women die while giving life'. So bad, so unfair. Something has to be done and all hands must be on deck to save a woman's life. "She is too important and beautiful to die ".



For some, it does not matter how the baby comes as far as mother and child live (me inclusive) but for so many in Nigeria it is a taboo to give birth through cs, you are weak and cannot push, is the most common say. You are look with pity as if something evil happened to you. When a woman is told she will give birth through cs the next word is "God forbid". The next place you find her is the church or traditional birth attendance home. Yes, some have been successful. Others have not; they are no more to tell their story. Someone have to take time to explain things like hypertension in pregnancy, placenta previa or rupture, abnormal position of the baby and other conditions.



Our medical personal are sometime not patient to explain this conditions to them. Women need counselling when they find themselves in a mixed condition. Then the next problem is the huge medical bill for cs. It fears a lot. Who pays the bill? Where is the government, what are they saying or doing about this. Where are the friends of the needy, you can help. The medical personals, what are their next plans about this. Can the bill be cut down, thus you are there to save life. Please do what you are called to do. Some say it is becos of the money that doctor always prefers the option of cs. I don't know, that is what people say....



One woman who was given the option of cs if her baby did not come after some hours but finally came without cs said “if I have gone through that operation and my husband pays the bill. I would have stayed hungry all my life because I know the type of husband I have". The torture she was going to face after cs was her problem. Could there be another option to safe delivery without cs. Then let hear it. Some people fear that they will die in the course of the operation. They say “I may not wake up again after the anesthesia. Someone have to assure them that there is much improvement in medical practice now and the options of anesthesia are different.



This is where we all come in. To speak so that another person can gain confident and be strong. I will talk and education within my scope. You too have to do the same within you scope by so doing everyone will be reached.



Thank you Pulse Wire.

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