We are not talking !

Few months back, for a writing competition I submitted a non fiction piece of writing about mobile phones and its excessive usage and how it is destroying the relationships. Though I did not get any acknowledgement for that no worries though as this was not the first time I did not made it through especially in terms of writing. But we are missing the point here and that is What are we doing? why are we doing it? this doom scrolling , the addiction to phones. I am calling out myself too. As I was sitting with my family and all of us were on our phones and doing something and connecting to somebody who is not in our moment. But how come we all came to this? though conversation in brown families can be a little hard but I am sure if we work on interpersonal communication we can do better. We all need to put effort in our relationships, posting reels or liking reels about it won't take it forward. we have to deliberately make choices that might seem hard at the moment to stay connected to our own people and one of them could be putting the phone down and trying to start a conversation and no doing an interpersonal communication course might not solve all your problems. Study people as each of them would be interested in different things, places and will have entirely different conversation. We are missing out so much on life just to stay connected to a digital life that does not even value us. Let me walk you through this! Imagine you are having a bad time as in something really bad happened ( I Hope it does not but we are being hypothetical at the moment) and you tell your online friends about it and you wonder why is everybody around you so oblivious to your pain. They do not seem to care , they do ask a few times but nothing more than that because that's what the strangers do. You did not put enough effort into the real people around you, some of them might have turned into your friends for life who knows ? give them a chance. What I am trying to say is that TALK, even if you do not end up connecting or making friends it is Okay but do Talk not to everybody and if you are introvert like me you can pick one and that would be fine. Anyhow the whole point of this was for me and you to learn that the digital world though such a great coping mechanism can also turn into a monster that can suck the life out of your reality and then you are left wondering why is it that you are not being able to connect to anyone. Connections take time to build you have to wait , give it some time and put some effort and then let it sprout, grow and bloom but do not forget to give it water and attention afterwards. You have to put an effort for your people, you cannot just let the screen take everything that is in your life YOUR JOY, YOUR HAPPINESS, YOUR LOVE AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.

That was a short sweet advice not just for you myself too because I am equally guilty and not proud of that at all. SO Let's take the initiative together to lessen screen time and increase the real time with real people.

Also if you want the piece of writing for reading purposes I can lend you that, if not then tell me a publisher who is publishing non fiction So I can connect to wider audience and also have something to my name too. May you have day filled with conversation with wonderful people who brings a smile to your face. Audios!