Who Knew Love Could HURT Like This!

Gender-based violence is a topic that many shy away from, and so have I, because I never thought it would happen to me, I guess, but it’s something that I need to talk about.

So, I hope this will help me and you heal or find some sort of closure.

Because it’s not just about the physical scars—it’s the mental and emotional wounds that linger long after the abuse ends. For many survivors, including myself, the aftermath of such violence and emotional trauma can lead to serious mental health challenges like PTSD, depression, and anxiety. And trust me, it’s not just the abuser who leaves their mark; sometimes, the people around you can make things even harder.

(imagine feeling suicidal every morning you wake up and every night you go sleep, because you feel worthless, unloved and like you have no-one around you that cares about you or loves you)

When I think about my own experience, it’s not just the abuse itself that hurt—it was the way people reacted to it. Instead of protection, I often got judgment. People made jokes about what I went through or threw my trauma back in my face. And that literally broke my confidence so much I blamed myself and started making excuses for his actions. Because, It was hard enough trying to heal from something so painful, but when those around you make you feel weak or ashamed for being abused, it cuts deeper than words can describe.

There were times when I felt so broken and isolated that I actually went back to my abuser. It wasn’t because I wanted to—it was because I craved some sort of stability or protection, even if it came from the person who hurt me. That’s the twisted reality of trauma. It messes with your mind and makes you question everything, including your own worth.

PTSD is no joke. Flashbacks, nightmares, and constant anxiety can take over your life. Simple things like hearing a certain tone of voice or seeing something that reminds you of the abuse can trigger an overwhelming wave of fear and panic. And when people around you minimize your experience or make fun of your pain, it only reinforces those feelings of helplessness.

Healing is a journey, and it’s far from easy. There’s no quick fix or magic cure for the mental health struggles that come with being a survivor. But one thing I’ve learned is that surrounding yourself with people who genuinely care and support you can make your world feel different. It’s not about pretending everything is fine—it’s about finding those who will sit with you in your pain and remind you that you’re not alone.

SoOoOoo, If you’re reading this and you’ve been through something similar, know this:

You are not weak for feeling broken.

You are not weak for struggling to move on.

And you are definitely not weak for wanting to heal.

It takes immense strength to face your trauma head-on and work toward a better future.

PS: Let’s stop shaming survivors and start PROTECTING them. Because at the end of the day, we ALL DESERVE to FEEL Safe, Loved, and Understood—even after the darkest moments of our lives.

With Love, Peace & Happiness