Why are we here?

For me Peace on a daily basis means a feeling of serenity, all with one and loving life no matter what the challenges are, I know that I can walk through it. I own my time and energy and I invest it first in myself in my morning routines to call back my energy and during the day when I fill myself with laughter, happiness and gratefulness. When I have inner peace it radiates in my conversations and interactions with people and if that peace has been tampered with, I regulate myself to come back to my inner point. For me peace doesn’t mean I have to live like the monks, it is about getting better each day, owning my life and taking responsible action each day. The day is gifted to me and I find ways to make it the best that I can. Before I sleep I rest my mind, body and soul, I reflect on my day, give thanks and sleep. As a life coach who focuses on women upliftment and empowerment, I want to walk the journey authentically, experience the exercises, tools and techniques. As a personal mastery coach, I am aligned with my personal mastery. This works for me. Living my truth.

As a coach I work with women and young girls and I hear the stories of self-doubt, issues with self-image, not being able to set boundaries, struggling with relationships especially the one with self, the broken promises, the buried dreams, sacrificing her life to ensure everyone else is provided for, only to find that when the need is no longer there, she is abandoned but the greatest abandonment is the one of self. The abuse, especially the emotional, mental and psychological abuse from others and self. Always pushing herself until she can’t anymore, in sickness and in health and then one day she finds that she is all alone and lost her direction. I hear this too often. How can one achieve peace in the community when there is no peace within.

Violence behind closed doors, community forcing beliefs onto others, the oppression of women by people who we rely on. I didn’t focus on peace a few decades ago because violence, abuse, exclusion seemed to have been normal. Until I experienced exclusion as a female in the workspace. It is subtle. You are included but you are not good enough for certain roles. You are included but you are not as intelligent as your counterpart. You are a great worker, top achiever but we can’t see you in a leadership position. But a bigger war is the one we have inside ourselves. The constant fight of “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not smart enough”, “I’m not pretty enough to be loved”. The injustice was embedded when we were youngsters and we play the role and become the greatest actresses.

We can’t control others but what they do affects us deeply. We can however manage ourselves in ways that protects our mental wellbeing. The stories in my community, women feel less than, abused, humiliated. This is a subtle violence that we don’t heed because of all the atrocities around us, but it is the violence that eventually breaks us down, lead to dis-ease. Women are affected because they have to be the strong one for their family members who are abusing substances and cannot provide for themselves, taken advantage of because she is unemployed and is supposed to take care of grandchildren, poverty. She becomes insecure and powerless within herself.

I learnt how to build myself up so that I can be my best self even when outside factors are playing against me. My daughter learnt from me and she adjusted herself too. We have such a beautiful relationship now because our communication is open. With extended family, I learnt how to set boundaries which gives me freedom to be me, do me and have peace within without the emotions that used to control me such as guilt, frustration and anger. Now this might seem like a less impactful story compared to war and other stories, but it made such a huge impact in my life and how I live it and I wanted to share this because the greatest war I believe right now is one with our mental wellbeing.

I would like global leaders to understand that we need to work together to create the shifts for more women so that she can live herself in peace (within) and nurture those around her because an empowered women has so much more to give to her romantic relationship, her family, extended family, community and the world at large. She shares her abundance and this is powerful. We got to work on the individual self; it all starts from there. The wars in the world whether its abuse, or violence stems from an imploded self – this is my belief.

I am currently running a 500@50 women upliftment and empowerment initiative called the Luminous women’s circle. What does this mean? I turned 50 on the 4th April 2026 and I didn’t want a party; I just wanted to start impacting 500 women’s lives in this year that I am 50. My circle is small and I am broadening my horizons to reach my target. The feedback I am getting from the work I do make me cry because I did not realize the impact and the power, I was led to do this work without thinking of the deep transformation it brings. I deeply believe that impacting these 500 women’s lives, will amplify into 5000 very soon because each women has the ability to impact more than 10 people in her circle and that is how we start changing the frequency in this world. Imagine if we came together and there was a bigger platform to do this on, how many more women’s lives we can impact. This number can be astronomically millions. The work I do, helps women holistically, it helps her become aware, let go, heal and create her path in a different way. Thank you for listening to me, I appreciate you and maybe one day our paths will cross and we can practically influence the lives of women breaking the stalemate we are currently in, in the world. Every little count and every count grow. We are so much more than we allow ourselves to be and once we realize this, we become unstoppable. The women are out there; how do we connect the dots. Deeply grateful to everyone who is making a difference to create the shift.

Today I was checking in with a lady that joined my women's circle. She has cancer and is in hospital right now and her message to me this morning on audio "You taught us and I am using it here in the ward. Every women has got a problem and all of them say the same thing, that they are too scared to talk out. I'm talking to the ladies. She chatted with 5 or 6 women already." This is incredible. I feel so blessed.