Widowhood as another stage for greater rebuilding.

On the 25th December 1995 my dad died in a car accident and my mum survived.It was only after 3yrs my mum came to know her husband died that day of the accident because she was rushed to the hospital where she spent 3yrs in the hospital for treatment"a painful acceptance and experience".

During my early age as a teenager, I used to pray never to become a widow because of the pains I watched my mother go through.My mum was sent by her parents for early marriage at the age of 15yrs and lost her husband when she was 30years old and left with six children and now a widow for 26yrs,she did not find life easy as a widow.My mum did not have the second thought of getting married again.As soon as her husband died this woman went through the pains from in-laws,we were sent out of our compound by my paternal uncles.At every challenge my mum will always smile.With her little profession as a teacher she sacrificed her last earnings to give education to her children.She engaged into farming, doing petty business just to get little savings to pay our school fees and feed us.What I admired from my mum is her aspect of communication and dialogue with her children, she is open and she has always told us the truth.At every stage my mum tries to seek help from others,the men will always request for sex or marriage.At some point when this woman was trying to process her husbands documents to get government benefits it became more challenging.As her last child,my mum will open up her pains to me with tears.She will tell me what keeps a woman strong is hard work, Discipline,faithfulness and prayers.In her despair as a widow, the only person my mum know is God.She believes prayers can break all mountains.This woman showed me the importance of hard work and determination.Through her hardwork all her children are educated and independent.My mum as widow has never stopped telling me on how valuable is a woman when she has something doing like handwork or been educated.She has always educated me on the value of skills added to your career as a woman.From her experience,I am moved to empower other vulnerable widows,making them not to lost hope because of their status.I am there to use my mums story to tell other widows not to think that only a man can give them the happiness they need, not only a man can you great.Every happiness comes from within.In my community,widows go through lots of challenges like Denial of resources and opportunities by the stronger sex.I need support on how I can rebuild vulnerable widows most especially those in the crisis areas who have lost their husbands due to war.